Differences Between Sex and Love Making

Often times people can't really differentiate between love making and having sex. I have used food analogy to explain the difference between the two in my previous post.

"Just as a cook is different from a chef so is sex different from love making. A chef is an advance cook and love making is advance sex. #SexAndFood"

"Just as everyone is a cook but not a chef so is everyone a 'sexer' but not everyone is a love maker. A chef and a love maker are professionals who had special training/skills. A chef knows what it takes to cook good food and a love maker too knows that sex is just an aspect of love making. A love maker gives attention, shows love and affection and above all, gives good sex...*winks* #SexAndFood"


"Sex is like a food cooked by a cook while love making is like a food made by a chef"

Some people might argue that there’s no difference – physically, they are the same. But emotionally, passionately, and mentally, the two deeds are very different!

You might have had sex and had been sexed. You might have laid and been laid. You might have fucked and been fucked. However, you might have not been made love to or made love in a very long while. I will point out some scenarios that differentiate love making from sex.

My experiences over the years justifies my assertion that sex is just an aspect of love making. You spend longer time on love making than having sex and while the effect of sex has a shorter lifespan, that of love-making has longer lifespan. Love making is like making a special delicacy that every moment, ingredient and spice count while sex is like making noodles - kinda "quickie!"

The scenarios below difference love making from sex:
The First Time Differentiates: The first time you make love with your partner, it’s usually a very special moment. It’s often planned out in advance, especially in new relationships. There’s often sensual foreplay, and your bodies fit together perfectly.

First time sex can be sloppy and awkward as you try to find the right position, and after everything’s said and done, it feels like there was something missing.

If it’s your first time with a new partner and you’re just having sex, it may be spontaneous. Your partner may not be your boyfriend, or even your crush, and the decision to go all the way is frequently a hormonal (thanks, booze!) impulse.

The Setting Differentiates: If you’re about to copulate in a dim room filled with candles, on a bed covered with rose petals, you’re probably going to make love.

If you’re going to do it in the backseat of a car, an airplane bathroom, an elevator, or another compact space that may have legal repercussions attached, it’s sex.

Whenever the romance is ruined due to uncomfortability of the places or spots, it is definitely sex and not love making.

The Aftermath Differentiates: Just like I said earlier that every moment in love making matters from the beginning to the end. Lovemaking includes mutual orgasms, followed by intermitent kisses and cuddling. If you’re in a relationship, your partner’s post-sex behavior could include promptly rolling over and falling asleep, or the phrase “That was great,” despite the fact that you didn’t get off. If you’re single, you’ll take the walk of shame after a long night of sex. In those rare occasions that you’ve made love to someone without commitment, it could turn into breakfast in the morning, a few more rounds, and maybe even a new relationship.

In my opinion (and experience), it’s far more common to have sex than to make love. However, this means that when you do find yourself both emotionally and physically stimulated with a partner you care for very deeply, you appreciate the art of lovemaking so much more than that one-night stand a few months ago with 'what's-his-or-her-name'.

Any other differences between “sex” and “making love”? Share your thoughts below!