#JustSharing: How To Know You Are Not The Main Chick

I read somewhere, the good book actually that in the last days seven women will cling to one man. Alas those days have come if not fully they are knocking at our doors.
Most women love to love and while you are loving there are now so many things to consider. So here are some things I have learnt and observed in my quest to love and be loved.


How to know you are not the main chick
1. He proposes that you two keep things under wraps, he doesn't want people in your business bla bla....this should raise alarm bells. How come everyone knew his last girlfriend??

2. You have never been to his house, he always comes over to yours. This might seem sweet at first. He may say that he is sparing you the effort, he doesn't want to stress you. My dear, there is a reason he does not want you there. He might be married or camping a girl there.
Also if he lets you in, keep your eyes open for signs of a woman's presence. There's always cooked freezer, the bathroom is so tidy. There is a hairbrush and female perfume around.

3. He refuses to label what you both have. He tells you, you do not need a title, it will only complicate things. I don't want you to start acting different. Don't fall for that men like to mark their territory.
Make him define the relationship, force him if you have to and if he still wiggles out of the conversation, it is simple he doesn't want to commit to you.

4. You don't go out in public together or in broad day light where both your features can be properly identified. He is trying to protect his interests with someone else.
There is a variation to this though, he may take you to the most obscure, hidden getaways where he is sure not to run into his main squeeze's family members.

5. He does not always answer your phone calls. It is called a mobile phone for a reason. Do not be fooled.

6. He is unavailable at certain times of the week. He gives you a story. He has family meetings on sundays, you shouldn't bother calling or expect to hook up. My friend, smell many rats especially if his stories come up on weekends.

7. You have never met any of his friends, we like our friends to meet our boos or the guys on our cases just to show off or hear their opinions. Why do we assume guys are different?
There is a reversal to this anyway just because you know all his friends does not guarantee main babe status guys are known to have their guys' backs.

Be warned Ladies!

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How Conflict Can Improve Your Relationship

Conflict gets a bad rap. We automatically assume that conflict will collapse a relationship. Some of us avoid conflict like the plague, thinking that if we close our eyes to a potential clash, it doesn't exist.
"Engaging in conflict isn't going to end the relationship, it's avoiding the conflict [that might]," According to Michael Batshaw…. He said that, "No problem is too small to acknowledge in a relationship."
But how do you make sure that conflict doesn't ruin your relationship and instead helps it grow? The good news is that "most fighting comes from skill deficits," According to Susan Heitler.
So you can learn to approach conflict in a constructive and effective way. Below are tips to help you do just that……

Are Men Willing to Wait till Marriage?

A lot of the posts I have shared on this blog on celibacy and abstinence, both for personal or religious reasons, have been mostly focused on women. Someone sent me a Dear Myne post, asking how to find true love as she is celibate. Another sent in a comment that some men who will accept to abstain from sex with their women are often not interesting.

Differences Between Boys And Men In A Relationship

A BOY keeps a password on his mobile phone.
A MAN is confident enough to say "Sweetheart can you answer that for me.

A BOY runs the streets & chill with his friends.
A MAN is enjoying time with his woman planning ahead for their future.

Less Controlling Moms Have Strongest Relationships With Their Kids

Researchers have long evaluated the roles parents play in children's development. Now, researchers at the University of Missouri have found that mothers' directiveness, the extent to which they try to control the content and pace of young children's play, varies based on the children's ages and the mothers' ethnicities. In addition, the study found that the more directive the mothers were during play, the less engaged children were with them and the more negative emotion the children displayed toward their mothers.

#JustSharing: How To Go From Being Her Friend To Being Her Lover

It's a tale as old as time – you're great pals with this girl, but you can't help wishing you were more than friends. It's one of the most common questions asked of relationship experts: how do I go from friend to boyfriend?
Perhaps you have asked this question yourself, wondering how on earth you make the transition.
Going from friend to boyfriend is not an easy task, especially if you've known the girl a long time. Trying to start a relationship from scratch is difficult enough, but when you have the added pressure of being friends first, it can be downright terrifying. You want to be her boyfriend, but you don't want to scare her off and lose her. So what's a guy to do?

Think It Through
Your first step should be to make completely certain it's what you want. Ask yourself if your friend is really someone you want to date, someone you have strong feelings for. If you're just going through a dry spell and feel lonely, maybe you just want a girlfriend – not necessarily her. You run the risk of losing her friendship by trying to be more than friends, especially if it's not meant to be, so be sure it's want you really want.

Self-Improvement
If you've always hung out with this girl in baggy jeans and lame T-shirts, it's time to improve your image. You want your friend to see you in a different light, so some changes may be in order. Is your haircut current and in style? Does she hate facial hair and you have a goatee? Have you replaced your sneakers in the past five years? Stuff like this may not seem important, but when you're trying to impress a girl, it's crucial. Start lifting weights, wear sexy cologne, whiten your teeth – anything to make yourself more appealing.

Mix it Up
You need to change your routines and habits when it comes to the friend you like. Start incorporating more romantic activities into your time together. Instead of going to the theater with a group, invite her to your place to watch a movie – preferably a chick flick. If you've always gone to a crowded joint, take her to a fancy restaurant. Get tickets to a play or concert she really wants to see and surprise her at dinner. Keeping her a bit off guard while you expand your relationship might get her to evaluate how she really feels, and realize there's more to you than she thought.

Bite the Bullet
Once you've taken some time to broaden your relationship, it's time to tell her how you feel. If you don't feel the time is right quite yet, start with subtle flirtations. See how she responds to an out-of-the-blue compliment, or mildly s*xual innuendo. Does she seem uncomfortable or act awkward? Take some more time to work on the steps mentioned above before trying again. Then just be honest and tell her you've developed feelings and would love the chance to make her feel the same. If you're brave and the moment feels right, try for a kiss. Maybe start with one on her cheek, look her in the eyes, and slowly move in. She may be surprised at first, but if there's a spark, it will now ignite.

Don't make it seem like you're giving her an ultimatum – lovers or nothing. Assure her that no matter what she says, you'll always be friends. Lay your feelings on the table and give her time to absorb everything and think it through. If there is a romantic connection, she'll soon feel it just like you do. It may take a while, but it will be well worth it.

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#JustSharing: Sex Tips To Rekindle The Heat

Keep It Pretty
First things first, it's impossible to have great s*x if you don't feel sexy, so treat yourself to a blowout or some new lingerie, whatever is needed to put the "va-va-voom" back into your step.

Flirt With Each Other
Make a habit of sending playful, sexy messages to him throughout the day. Make him salivate with anticipation by telling him what you're wearing and what you want to do to him later.

Set The Mood
Don't underestimate the power of lighting a few candles. Make sure your bedroom is sexy and doesn't have toys littering it. And turn off the tv.

Just Kiss
Agree to place a ban on s*x for a certain length of time and just kiss and focus on foreplay. Abstaining from s*x has the added benefit of charging up both of your libidos.

Surprise Him
Don't wear any underwear and let him find out.
Watch an er*tic film together

It doesn't have to be Po*n for it to be sexy. Some favorites: Body Heat, Belle du Jour, Last Tango in Paris, Like Water for Chocolate.

PLAY AN ADULT GAME

Discover A New Position
There are over 60 different positions in the Kama Sutra, so there's no excuse to not try a new one at least once a week!
 
Share Your Fantasies
A little role-playing can be fun and it doesn't have to be limited to the bedroom. Start the fun before you even get home by meeting at a bar and pretending you just met.

Get Out Of The Bedroom
Sometimes a change of locale is all that's needed to rev up the action. Try having s*x somewhere unexpected; just be careful not to get caught!
If any of the ideas makes you feel nervous, then you should definitely try it first. The great part of being with someone for an extended period of time is that you can fully trust and feel safe with him, so don't hesitate to try something out of your normal comfort zone, especially if it means revving your sex life up!

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10 Men And Women Share Their Workplace Sex Stories

Sleeping with your coworkers can be a tricky business.
But according to a recent survey conducted by Business Insider, a whole lot of people get romantically (or physically) involved with their colleagues.
We were curious about the realities of office séx — did most people have positive experiences? Terrible ones? Were these interactions just sexual flings or did they turn into extended romantic relationships? So we asked readers, both male and female, to chime in and share their stories.

5 Ways To Keep The Chemistry Alive

Chemistry is usually the first thing that draws you to someone new and then you build a deeper relationship from there (if you click on multiple levels). But once you've been together for a while, that elusive chemistry can fade.

SPARK UP YOUR LOVE
If you're feeling like the spark is on its way out, don't panic. We're here to help you get it back.